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A breakup or a divorce is always a difficult time. Contrary to popular belief, men also take this very seriously; perhaps it doesn’t hit them at first, but they definitely have to deal with a lot of emotions in the post-breakup period.
Ending a relationship with someone is always gut-wrenching. Just like girls stick together during this problematic time, guys should also give tips to one another; this cannot be encouraged enough. Moreover, the divorce lawyers who pretend to be your best friends at the time of divorce never turn out to be one.
If you’re a guy and you’re handling an end of an important relationship and you have no idea what to do, take a look at the following tips that will make this period a little bit more tolerable:
Always keep busy while handling a breakup
One of the best things to do for yourself during this time is to keep busy and surround yourself with the people you love and the activities you enjoy doing. Focus on your workout, on your career, or even on your hobbies.
Know, however, that keeping yourself busy will not fix all of your problems as the sorrow period will hit every once in a while, but it’s always better to think about something else some portion of the day.
Your family and your friends can be of big help during this challenging time. Remember that asking for help is not a negative thing as it can help you a lot in the long run.
Speaking about your issues with people around you can help you get those negative feelings out of the system, but it can also help you realize if you had been making certain mistakes. In case of a divorce, make sure to find good help wherever in the world you are to make sure the divorce process is smooth.
Divorces are quite common in the USA, Australia and Europe, so finding good family lawyers in Sydney or any other American or European city is an easy endeavor if you know what you’re looking for.
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They will help you finalize everything very quickly, so you will not have to think about your divorce in unnecessary situations.
Don’t forget the problems
Even though it’s always important to focus on the pretty and the positive, it’s very important not to forget why you had problems in the first place.
When we break up, we always reminisce about the nice and happy moments in a relationship, which can make the healing process slower.
This is the time to be realistic and to understand the flaws and problems of both of you.
Take your time to heal
Finally, take your time to heal. No breakup is easy, and sometimes it might take you a bit longer than you have imagined. This is all normal, and you will eventually be okay – you will have to go through the healing process.
Plenty of guys out there are scared of the fact that they’re constantly thinking about their ex, thinking that there’s no way back from the gutter, but the truth is far from that. Once you let all your sorrow out, and once the healing period stops, you will see how good you will feel.
So don’t rush, focus on yourself and work hard on the habits that you want to change. You know the cliché one – when life gives you lemons, make lemonade? Well take this breakup and turn it into something powerful and beneficial for yourself.
It’s not going to be easy, it never is. But it’s not impossible to get over someone. This will eventually happen, so dwell on the nice memories, but rather be realistic and focus on yourself.
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Peter is a men's grooming & fashion writer at High Street Gent magazine from UK. Beside writing he worked as a menswear fashion stylist for many fashion events around UK & AU. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.