Through all those rosy days of your relationship, in the beginning, she may never have minded you going out. Of course, who would want to be seen like a drama queen that creates a fuss over everything; especially over as small a issue such as a boys night out?
Only till you realize that every time she is quiet on those boys night out of yours, that she is actually feeling jittery from inside.
To help you know more about your girl when you are out, we bring to you ways of understanding what she feels about those nights when you are partying hard and she is waiting for you to get home and more likely or not, ready for a fight.
The key problem that a woman may have is insecurity. The thought of not being aware of what you are up to, can give her shivers in her spine. While a woman may trust her man, she is always worried about losing him to another woman. The common idea that he might be in a room full of other women and his friends may disturb her. Why wouldn’t it?
How to get through it: if you cannot beat them, then join them. Call her at least twice to make her feel comfortable with you not being in the wrong place doing something unwanted. Hearing from you will not only make her feel sure of you being in the right corner of life, but would also make her feel important and special.
Nobody likes to be the bad person of a relation and certainly not the girl. The key goal of every woman in a relation is to be a man’s best friend. She also wants to be just like a family member, even though is she can’t be; but she wants to be it!
This is one of the reasons she hates you going out with the other guys, she hates that you need a break and may enjoy somebody else’s company over her.
How to get through it: Give her some time. Let her in on those all fun facts about the night. Let her feel like she isn’t the boring one and you enjoy her company as much as you enjoy with the boys. Sometimes make her one of the guys and do exciting fun things with her. This will not only calm the jealousy down, but will also make your relation more exciting and fun.
Young ladies don’t dislike their man’s companions for reasons unknown. Regardless of what you may think, there is definitely a reason, and it’s normally a truly decent one. One can be on the grounds that she feels that a certain is, in somehow, measuring her man down and endangering you as a couple. That may sound somewhat weird; however, it’s kind of valid. She needs you to be with people with whom she is sure your relationship will not come under fire.
How to get through it: That one thing that you truly can DO is listening to her and soaking in her advice. Once you have done that, make her understand your point. Maybe, make her meet your friends, so that she can know who are the people you hang out with, when not with her. This will give her a sense of belonging, and knowing the people you know, will make sure that she doubts less on you.
She needs to feel like she can believe your basic leadership abilities and depend on you to be conscious of her in the relationship. Most women would believe what you say and may not create that big an issue while you plan to be out, but if your girl is, then you must be doing something wrong. There are only two questions you need to and answer to for yourself here: 1) Am I going to a night club? 2) Does this involve seeing/touching other women?
How to get through it: As difficult as it may sound, but if you want your relationship to work then you might as well work towards keeping her trust intact.
– Meher Sethi