We all have had that perfect relationship or a perfect conversation, which we have ruined. What does she likes and what does she hate? Even a tiniest of mistake can turn off your woman. How to keep your girl happy and how to maintain a good relationship is not a big deal.
However, we all have days when we just do not understand where we are going wrong. What did we do that annoyed her so much? Surprisingly it’s not just you; it is all of us with few mistakes up our sleeves that keep getting in between you and her.
Worry not, as we have hand-picked 4 quick steps, that can give you a sorted like when it comes to your relationship.
Find out where you went wrong and save the next ones.
Mistake 1: Not having a control over your hormones. Also known as taking it too fast!
In India, for a girl to get physical still remains a fragile topic. So every time you act too noisy and desperate, she would instantly think this is all you are in for and leave. Do not creep her out! If you’re really into her and want a long lasting relation then give her some space and time. Let her trust you and know that you are better than just somebody who wants slide into her pants. This may take time, but use this time as wisely as you can.
What to do: Remember when they said patience makes it worth it? Well, for once believe in it. A committed relationship is like a 24-hour job. Give her time and start to believe that there is so much more in a relationship than just satisfying your anxiety on the lower floors of the body ;). Respect Women, and they will give you their all.
Mistake 2: Too many bad choices! Also know as being with too many ‘Miss Wrongs.’
We all have made our fair share of blunders, ending up with psychos and sticky solutions. But who gets it right in the first go? Only till it goes too far, we end up losing our own faith into a relation and thus end up forgetting what the bigger picture is, while settling down in life. If you have been in the single’s market for too long then you would probably know what we are talking about.
First six months are the honeymoon period, but what lies after that is where the challenge begins. All those things you find cute now; can easily turn out to be signs of a stalker who would just deny any personal space to you, creating mental disturbance in your life.
What to do: Just because you have had a ton of bad relationships, does not mean there are no good ones. You just need to be pickier and more aware of what you are getting yourself into. We would suggest you to not let the common saying ‘love is blind’ rule you. Keep your eyes open and see if she is actually worth the efforts. A pretty face is not all that you need. We are striving for a compatible person here!
Today, nobody has the time for games. You can’t wait for her to message first or for her to beg you to stay another 10 mins on the call. In this egoistic world, everyone has their A game on.
What to do: Keep it simple. Be who you are, message her if you want to and don’t if you do not or are busy. Do not beat around the bush waiting for turns. Remember this is not the monopoly or a chess board. Win as a couple, not as individuals.
Mistake 4: Do not act insecure
We all tend to have emotions like jealousy and possessiveness, in a new relationship. Not considering that our partner has got her share of people in life and they also do matter. Telling your girl to maintain distance from people and asking her to give all her time to you would just get her angry. Even if it doesn’t, do remember, it just isn’t right!
Would you maintain distance from your friends, if she asked you to? We don’t think so.
Resist the temptation of constantly telling her what to do and what not to or checking up on her. Each one of us loves our space and hate to be nagged all the time.
What to do: Understand that at the end of the day we all are humans, we all have had the past and we all have a future of which to be a part of , you need to let her live. Let her go out for coffees and dinners with friends. If she is going to cheat, then she would do it anyway, without you getting to know anything about it.
– Meher Sethi